He’s way too suspicious and possessive about me!

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He's way too suspicious and possessive about me!

Write to Diana at diana@mid-day.com, or fax her on 24150009. You can also post letters to Dear Diana, Mid Day, Peninsula Centre, Dr S S Rao Road, opp Mahatma Gandhi Hospital, Parel, Mumbai 400012

Dear Diana,
I am a girl in a relationship with a married man. We belong to the same religion but to different sects. I am in this relation for the past 10 months. Initially it was all fine, but a couple of weeks back, things started turning sour. First, he portrayed himself as a person who loves, cares, understands and trusts me to the fullest. There

was a stage when I was not able to see any one else and all my past relations seemed like mistakes. I am 29, he is 39, married and has a nine-year-old daughter. He assured me that he will convince his wife and marry me ASAP making me his second wife. As I was head over heels in love with him it was all fine with me but things started becoming bad very soon. He is a suspcicious person who doubts a lot. He can't see me talking to any man. I am a working professional, a sales person in a corporate company and I have to meet a lot of other professionals, who may be men. When we go to the malls to shop or drive around or go out eating I am not supposed to look around at other men. I have no doubts he loves me but then this habit of his hurts me a lot.

Sabina

Dear Sabina,

I'm fighting for his sake...
Dear Diana,
I recently fought with my parents to the extent that they wanted to kick me out of the house. We fought for over two days and I even considered moving out and finding alternate accomodation. The reason for the fight was my insistence on going out with this one guy. They seriously feel he won't amount to anything. But I want him to have a fighting chance to prove them wrong. Am I doing the right thing?
Kajal

Dear Kajal,
Parents often assume they know what's best for their children and will go to any extent to protect their children from any sort of harm. What parents most often don't realise is that by doing so, they're harming their kids, stunting the growth of their life experience reserves and letting them make mistakes on their own. They might be right in forming a perception, but the fact that they're shooting down allu00a0 chances for this guy, makes you believe that you have to protect him even more, leading to a vicious circle.u00a0u00a0u00a0

Why does she need time to think?
Dear Diana,
The first time we met, it was like fireworks went off in my body all at once. That was the kind of effect R had on me. She's not your conventional idea of what a beautiful woman should be. But to me, she was that and so much more. I began pursuing her in true earnest. I asked her out, she agreed; we had a great time. Several other meetings followed. I soon realised that she was THE one for me. I proposed marriage. She said she needed time to think it out. Her parents know I will keep her happy. Why does she need time to think?
Marvin

Dear Marvin,
Quite simply put, marriage is a humungously big and life-altering decision. A lot of pros and cons have to be weighed out before two families actually meet to talk on the topic. I think you should be patient and see how this goes. Give her time for to realise how genuine your emotions for her are. So you have won her parents over. That's half the battle in the bag. Just keep your fingers crossed.