Gay partner wants me to change my sex, for good sex

Sneha

Dear Sneha,
Just ask her outright if she has lost it. There has to be a reason why she hasn't returned it in three months, and doesn't have an answer for you. Tell her that it's ok if she has lost it, and can replace it with another copy.u00a0 Or just land up at her house and demand it.

Worried about my friend's young son...

Dear Diana,
My college friend recently announced his second marriage. His first wife of 10 years died of a terminal illness just eight months back. He has a seven-year-old son by her. Now he is planning to get married to this woman he met on a matrimonial website.

I know it is not up to me to judge how long a man should mourn his wife, even though they I had been a witness to their romance during college. But I am worried about his son and the impact this will have on him. There was something he said innocently that made me feel my friend had begun looking at matrimonial websites before his wife's death. Is there anyway I can help the child?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
This is a very sensitive issue. Invite the friend over and have a heart-to-heart. Just the two of you. And say whatever is on your mindu00a0-- the doubts, the fears, the concern about the child. Just spill. So at least you know you have said your part.

Then it's upto your friend to decide for himself what he wants to do. Just make sure that you tone isn't judgemental. Start by saying that you are concerned and want to point out a few things as a close friend, and hope that he takes it in the right spirit.

As for him wanting to get married in eight months, I know it seems early but then you cannot put a time frame on such things. Maybe he needs a companion, or a mother for his child. And ultimately you can't stop him, accept that.