'I can't get my ex-boyfriend out of my head...'

Dear Diana,
My wife and I were together for five years before we went our ways. She was seeing another man for a while in between. Now that we've made an attempt to be together again, it feels like she is comparing me to the other man she was with briefly. He was this bulked up and tattooed dude which I can never be. What should I do?
— Shreyas

Dear Shreyas,
Comparisons will lead to several problems for you and her. If your wife has made this guy a yardstick, she will always be making notes of what you lack and what he had. This will unnecessary create another rift between you two. Now that you have decided to get together, you might as well begin life anew on a pleasant note rather than go around making comparison notes. Knock sense into your wife's head to refrain from doing it.