'I am torn between child and boyfriend...'

Dear Diana,
I'm 42-year-old and my wife has left me after nine years of marriage. We were childless and it wasn't really the best of relationships either. Though we never fought with each other, a simmering underlying tension of not being right for each other existed. I'm not really surprised that we aren't together anymore. The only thing that troubles me is that she has found love in one of my friends and that thought is very unsettling for me. I can't understand how she and my buddy can do this?
— Gautam

Dear Gautam,
It is obvious that your buddy and wife hooked up behind your back. You may find it unsettling, but you have to accept the reality and move on. You were not happy in the relationship, so why moan about it now? What is affecting you is that she is with your pal and you had no clue about their affair — you never got along with her while he did — so let them lead their lives while you get on with your life.