She makes excuses to talk to me, is she interested?

Kavita

Dear Kavita,
Getting an Afro is a bit drastic. Are you sure about this? I suggest you get an Afro style wig and see how you like it. Wear that around for sometime and maybe she will get used to the idea. Also see how your friends react to it. It is a bit clownish, no?

Wedding venue creating tension...

Dear Diana,
My son, who has been in the US for the past three years, and his fiancee (who is a US citizen of Indian origin) have decided to get married there. My husband and I are fine with it, but our relatives are objecting. They believe it is not possible to observe all the traditional rituals in the correct manner in a foreign country.

They also say he should not get married without his relatives and yet, they refuse to travel to the US. My husband and I don't want a happy occasion to create tension and yet want my son and daughter-in-law to do as they wish. How do we resolve this?

Vyjanthi

Dear Vyjanthi,
I think it is the wedding of your son, and he and his bride should be allowed to decide where they should get married. But if it is important to you to please your relatives, then you can have a court marriage and a reception in the US, and then ask the couple if they'd be willing to have a traditional wedding in India. A win-win situation, no?