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Dear Diana,
I had an arranged marriage two years ago and am now a father of an 8-month old baby. I do not know if I love my wife. I married because my parents wanted me to and after the wedding, we started liking each other. Soon we had an unplanned baby and it seemed like things were happening too fast in my life. 
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We both come from different socio-economic backgrounds and we are quite different from each other. I am the only son of my parents and I live with them. My wife feels that my parents interfere a lot in our lives and so she often quarrels with them. She does not even talk much to them. I have tried to explain many times but she always feels she is right.
I cannot see this happening to my parents. Usually, she is very nice to me but sometimes some things upset her and I do not understand why. My kid is the only good thing in my life. I certainly did not want my married life to be like this.u00a0 She is a nice wife but I cannot see the same love for my parents. She does not understand me. Her parents are illiterate and not of much help.
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
You have to be sensitive to your wife as well as your parents. It is difficult for a girl to adjust to new surroundings and new people. To top it all, she has a baby. Women go through post -u00a0partum depression etc. And things must be far from easy for her at this stage.
Make your parents understand that. Also, tell your wife that you understand what she is going through and will do your best to help the situation, but she has to find a way to get along with your parents. Tell her that your parents mean the world to you and that she could at least, for your sake, try to be nice to them. And if that seems impossible, move out somewhere nearby. If you're lucky, the fights will cease. Maybe she doesn't feel as obliged to caring for her parents as you do. Understand that and appeal to her better instincts. Say a prayer and have a word with her. I am sure she will come around.
Kya karoon... to get over him
Dear Diana,
I love my friend a lot and he used to love me too, but now he's got married to someone else. I am not able to forget him. We are still in touch. What do I have to do to get over him?
Neetu
Dear Neetu,
Just stop being in touch with him. Don't make it a habit to be around him for some time at least. He is married to someone else now and that is a boundary you ought to respect. For whatever reason, he chose not to be with you and you have to learn to live with that. It will be tough, but you'll get by.
How do I tell her I love her?
Dear Diana,
I am 23. From the time I was in Std VI, I have loved this girl, but I am unable to tell her because I don't know if she loves me too. I am afraid she'll say no and I will lose her friendship too. She is my good friend and understands me, but sometimes I think she could be in love with somebody else.
She always talks to me with a smile, but gives no indication of whether she loves me or anyone at all. Iu00a0 feel I would never be happy without her. But am I really in love? Please tell me.
Raghu
Dear Raghu,
Don't you think you have already waited too long? Wouldn't asking her sooner, have spared you the lovelorn behaviour? She cannot continuously have been in love with someone (or intermittently) without you knowing about it if you two are good friends at all.
She might be good at shielding her emotions but you need some sort of closure on this. If the price of an answer is your friendship with her, then so be it. At least you will find some peace of mind. Besides, if you feel you will never be happy without her, it simply means that you love her dearly and would want her to be part of your life in some way or the other. Are you in love? That's a question only you can truly answer.
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