My girlfriend is too forward-thinking for me!

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My girlfriend is too forward-thinking for me!

Dear Diana,
My girlfriend is too forward-thinking. I don't know what she's been influenced by (books or movies?) but she's talking very irrationally these days. She wants us to have a baby before we get married (we've been together six years), wants us to live in before that and all these are recent developments. I'm no stone-age man in these matters, it's just that I don't want her to repent these decisions, given that society in general and her family and mine in particular, won't accept it. I've tried to tell her this but she just won't listen. Help!

Jignesh

Dear Jignesh,
If it's just a passing fad for her, it would be best to discourage her before she gets too serious about it. Some things don't work everywhere as the ground realities differ. Tell her that you seriously don't want her doing something she'll regret later. And since you already have, tell her that if she's adamant, you'll dump her. If that doesn't get the point across nothing will.

Will oral sex with prostitutes give me AIDS?

Dear Diana,
I am 20 years old. I live in Dubai. I often visit prostitutes. I have oral sex with them. Will this cause me AIDS?

Shabbir

Dear Shabbir,
If there are any cuts in your mouth or hers, the chances of contracting AIDS from an infected partner increases. If you do not practise safe sex, the next best thing would be to avoid sex with a partner who has had multiple partners.

Will having sex affect my muscles?

Dear Diana,
I'm 38, gay and work with an airline. I work out daily for almost three hours. Every alternate day, I indulge in sex with someone I casually meet. Will this affect my muscle build-up? First thing in the morning, I get cramps in both hands, but once I throw weights, the pain disappears. What's happening here?

Noell

Dear Noell,
I wouldn't be the best person to answer that question. ideally, your trainer or your physician would be able to answer that one. As far as I know there is no direct co-relation between the two. In any case, if the cramps disappear later on, it can't be much of a bother, no?

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