I'm a fool to care... despite his philandering ways!

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Loneliness and insecurity aren't excuses you can hide behind. Promiscuous behaviour has a nasty habit of striking without warning. By your admission, these places are shady. Why go there at all? When there, do you practise safe sex? If not, you could be putting your girlfriend at risk. Ideally, you will have to chart out a schedule where the two of you can meet more often. Or get into some sort of commitment ufffd an engagement, perhaps? When those urges crop up, it's best that you ignore them.