I found out he was cheating and he broke up with me!

Rene

Dear Rene,
That probably means you're around 12-14 years old. It's way too early to worry about "finding" love. Be confident about yourself, love yourself and automatically others will be attracted to you. Don't worry too much about it just as yet, despite peer pressure.

I'm 13 and confused...

Dear Diana,
I'm 13 and am frankly, quite confused. There's this boy I'm quite close to, and he wants me to do some "stuff" with him. But he said to me that he isn't sure that there'll be any feelings involved and now I'm not sure what to do. I want to do it, but I just don't want to be used. Guys keep messing around with girls' feelings and if I am understanding this correctly, it makes me really confused and really angry. I just want someone to love me for who I am. The only boy I really like has moved away and I still like him. What do I do?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
If you "do stuff" and get found out (which you will, in due course), it will cause you much trauma and yeah, "mess you around". Feelings might not be involved as far as he's concerned, but where does that leave you? Exactly where you don't wanna be. Feeling used. As a thumb rule, don't do anything you'll regret later. We all do foolish things when we're young and get wiser because of it. You don't have to make the same mistakes. Just say no if if you don't want to go through with it. I'd say you're too young and that it's against the law anyway ( and that is the truth) but under enough pressure, you'd buckle anyway. So I'm telling you this. Grow older without regrets. You'll be happier for it!