Cheat on 'safe' boyfriend or go with adventurous lover?

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Dear Friend,
And what would you accomplish? You would not change the past, you would not cancel the harm she has done to you , and you would not get back the "gold" she has dug. You'd kick her out of your workplace, but as for kicking her out of your mind and life, you could've should've done it anytime, wherever she is, because it's only up to you chosing how much space you want to give her in your thoughts. It seems to me that she must still have quite a bit of it, since you are plotting such an extreme retaliation, and carrying it through will only confirm and reinforce the hold she has on you.