Career or marriage? What should I choose and how?

Sampada

Dear Sampada,
A condom alone is pretty good protection as long as he knows how to put it on, and changes it for another as soon as he ejaculates. If you want to be doubly sure, maybe you can speak to your gynaecologist and go on the pill.

Should I be more reserved?

Dear Diana,
I'm a 21-year-old girl. Often, to get a new friend, I will be very open with her/him from the first day, disclosing my past, some secrets, boyfriends, friends, parents, even sexual life. I feel completely comfortable doing it even if the other person doesn't disclose as much as I do.

My question: is what I'm doing wrong? Does it scare people off? Should I be a bit more reserved? I'm very trusting... I've had a lot of stuff happen to me so I feel like these events will interest people and make them think of me as an interesting and fun girl.

Saira

Dear Saira,
Yes, there's a reason why it's called TMIu00a0-- Too Much Information. People who don't know you, don't want to know every tidbit about a stranger. If some girl randomly told me some shocking secret about her or her family, I wouldn't even know what to say to her.

It'su00a0 uncomfortable to hear details of the private lives of people you barely even know. When you first meet people, you know if you connect with them or not without having to tell them every detail of your life or past. People want to be your friend because you're fun and have things in common, not because they want to be your therapist. Once you get to know someone better, it's okay to share things like that.