'My brother is a closet gay'

Dear Confused,
First you need to realise that he is still the person he has always been. Nothing has changed about him and he can’t change who he is. So keep calm and gradually break the news to your family. They will but naturally be shocked unless they have experienced tell-tale signs. It will take a long while for them to come to terms with it. So do not mess things by saying anything and aggravating the situation. Also, it is not a decision to be gay. He was born that way... keep that in mind.u00a0