07 July,2009 10:44 AM IST | | Diana
Need a gal whose company I can enjoy... I have money! Illustration/ Satish Acharya
Dear Diana,
I am 30 and married but am tired of my married life. My wife is having flings with other guys right under my nose and doesn't respect my parents and doesn't love me. She only loves my money. I love a girl and still love her. She is ready to marry me the day my divorce comes through but it didn't work out. We broke up two years back but are still in touch. She's still waiting for a divorce to happen but it's impossible now. I'm filthy rich but am looking for a gal who can share her life with me physically and mentally but one who doesn't need a commitment from me. I'm not looking for prostitutes but someone I can gift, take out to lunch etc. I am even ready to pay her around Rs 40,000 for her expenses but I need a friend and for her to be in a live-in relationship. I don't want to commit suicide. Please help me.
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Rish
Dear Rish,
Money can't buy you love or someone's affection. At best, what you will get is something that feels like the real thing, but isn't. I'm not saying you won't find someone who isn't looking for a commitment (someone who is only looking for a good time) but that you're assuming that friendship can be bought through money. If you just need companionship, you'll have to look at escorts. But are you really that desperate. And is your situation worth committing suicide over? Think long and hard about it. You sound like a petulant child throwing a tantrum when it doesn't get what it wants.
I'm desperate for sex
Dear Diana,
I'm 27, I masturbate, am still a virgin and desperately want to have sex. I don't trust anyone. I don't have any girlfriends. Girls from my childhood are all married and no-one cared when I was in college. How do I have sex secretly.
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Raj
Dear Raj,
Well, I won't tell you to visit sex workers because it simply isn't safe. And paying for sex isn't quite the same as making love to someone you actually love. In any case, you'll have to work it out yourself or get married. Either which way, it has to be consensual.
He's staying aloof...
Dear Diana,
I'm 27, am gay and am doing pretty well in life. I became close to a guy of indian origin but he has been overseas for two years now. It was all going fine and until a year ago, we kept in touch over the phone. He came to India to see me. We spent a great time together and also kept in touch when he went back. All of a sudden, he stopped taking my calls or replying to my SMSes. A few weeks ago, he sent a SMS stating he's not able to give me the time that I deserve. I know he's got some issues at home (unwell mom and professional difficulties). But he does not share his problems with me. I've lost it all.
Anonymous
Dear Friend,
You can't be oversensitive about this. Maybe, he has genuine problems at hand and cannot spend as much time with you as he'd like to. Give him the benefit of doubt. Juggling his career, his family life and his life with you must, no doubt be difficult. Speak to him about any aspersions you may have about where the relationship is going and let him know what you're going through. Make sure that he understands and promises to rectify the situation whichever way he can.
