I hid my affair from my girl and now I'm feelin' guilty!

I hid my affair from my girl and now I'm feelin' guilty!

Dear Diana,
I met this girl last year in my new office and fell in love with her. Initially, we were very fond of each other and also had a good time, but later I felt something was missing in our relationship. I told her this. Later that year, my sister's friend texted to wish me on my birthday after three years. We love each other's company, but things didn't work in our favour at the time. Now when she texted me, I was unable to stop myself from being in touch with her. Slowly, unknown to my girlfriend, I started dating my sister's friend and also started ignoring my girlfriend. I had sex with my sister's friend consensually after a few months of dating. I later realised I had done wrong as I had never told her about my girlfriend nor did she ever ask me. I understand what I did was wrong but can you help me make a right decision so that none of our lives are spoiled. I don't want to bound for a lifetime to someone whose company I don't enjoy at all.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Okay, so you don't want to be with your girlfriend. You feel the relationship is dead and that it is time you moved on. Fair enough. Let her know that. Don't let her hear about it from someone else. Also, if you'd rather be with your sister's friend, then you ought to figure out how she'll take the news should you decide to break it to her. Just because she never asked you, doesn't mean she doesn't have a right to know. If you think she'll be cool about it all, tell her. Decide who you want to be with and tell the other that it's all over between you two. No-one's lives will be spoiled here (though hearts will be broken).

No time to make love

Dear Diana,
I am 44 and don't have a girlfriend. Also, I have no time to make love. I work 365 days a year. Please help me.

Anthony Coelho

Dear Anthony,
At 44, is it a girlfriend you're looking for or just female company? Besides, you seem married to your work if you don't get even one off day. Forget about making love, you won't have a girlfriend if you don't give her the time of day.

I'm Mrs Lonely!

Dear Diana,
I was in love with a married guy for a year and a half. My marriage was fixed late last year to an NRI. We were wed but were unable to share physical intimacy as he went back to his country after one week. I am here and the guy I love is here with his family. I can't live without him. I feel my future is dark. I don't live with my parents or in-laws; I live alone. I am really worried about my future. If I tell my husband, he might leave me. What should I do?
u00a0
Name withheld on request

Dear Friend,
Do you really expect the guy you love to leave his family for you? He won't! Simply because if he wanted to, he would've done it already. Also, why don't you move abroad with your husband if the loneliness really gets to you? What's stopping you? Being in love with a married man u00a0will bring nothing but heartbreak because he's selfish and will manipulate you and bend you to his will. Why don't you live with your parents or in-laws if the loneliness eats at you? Also, if you think it's stupid to stay on in a sham of a marriage, by all means tell him and talk of divorce. But won't you be lonelier still?