'I'm attracted to my girlfriend's pal'

I keep thinking about her all the time. I don't want to harm my relationship with girlfriend either. How should I go about this? Even if I become friends with this gorgeous acquaintance, I'm sure I won't ruin it by turning physical. Maybe it's just thoughts and I just want to talk to her. Is this tendency normal?
- Tanmay

Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Tanmay,
You seem obsessed by this woman. You have taken a fancy to her. Looks like it is a physical attraction. But to make matters worse, she is your girlfriend's pal. So tread with care. There is no harm striking a friendship with her but don't let things happen in the heat of the moment. One thing can lead to another. May be if you get to know her and start talking, you may have a different perception of her than from what you think she is.u00a0

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